The Lowdown On Lolo's Life: A Letter to Good Girl Chronicle Subscribers

If you are not subscribed to my new website here is a look at the type of letters I write to subscribers. Once all my work is transferred these intimate letters will solely be a #teamgoodgirl benefit. 

Dear Good Girl Chronicles Subscribers AKA

Team Good Girl,

Gosh I've been a bad friend. My goal was to send an update on me, my life, and my LLC Good Girl Chronicles LLC every week. Life, as it often does, got in the way. Here's why I couldn't write you #facts

-My parents essentially disowned me. They put in writing I could no longer visit their home, see my Down Syndrome sister, or my dogs.

-My mother went to my friends and told their parents I was manic, promiscuous, and off my medications. THIS IS FALSE

-My parents sent me a notice that they were cutting me off their car insurance with little to no warning, and then they wrote they are repossessing my car that was gift from when I landed my job at WAVY. Even though my father promised it to me. That hurt like hell. I love that Beetle.

The Break In at Greenbrier Mall
-My wonderful awesome Beetle was broken into at 2:30 p.m. at Greenbrier Mall in Chesapeake before my birthday. It was parked up front by Green Turtle. There are no cameras at that mall, and no warnings. Police have told me I was one of three people robbed that day. "There is a rash of thefts in the area", one Chesapeake Police Officer said. It's happening in the Greenbrier Mall area and across the street near Ross. I know a friend whose car was broken into this year too. There is also a rumor that 2 people got mugged at Greenbrier within the last year. I don't feel safe there but it's one of the best places to power walk. ALSO I was sleeping out of  my car and I had a lot of items in there. The thieves took my vitamins, my beats, my notebook of writing, my purse, my credit cards, money.. I could go on. It tapped me out financially.I have filed complaints with the General Manager of the mall, and security knows.  I also have a police report. Waiting for my insurance claim.

-My tenant is terrible. She refuses to pay her rent and she wont move out. I'm trying to handle that everyday.

-I had to put my condo on the market. The ordeal with my tenant was more stress than it was worth.

- I have had to let go of a lot of people I cared about, people I thought were friends and that has hurt like hell.

-Bill collectors wont stop calling, and I'm talking for little balances like 45 dollars. It's stressing me out.

-A guy I liked "the greatone" told me he didn't need me. I needed time to process that.

- I found out City Hall was a liar (more on that later) like a really BAD LIAR - IE he got fired.

-I miss my sister and my dog

-I found a Buddhist temple where I talked about Jesus and I found peace.

-I met a man who helped me but scared me. We're no longer friends and I'm sad.

-A T-Mobile rep called me a "fucking bitch" and I had to handle it with corporate. They fixed the ordeal.

-A manager at Kay Jewelers kicked me out of his store when I wanted to explain how his necklace broke my neck out. I had to process that cause I thought we were friends.

- I am struggling with ways to raise money for my marching band which I believe is my job right now. Find out more at www.gofundme.com/teamgoodgirl

- Like Kanye West My dreams keep me up at night. SO I will endure this.

- I was sexually assaulted, harassed, and mistreated at a Holiday Inn and the company wants nothing to do with it. (I've filed complaints with corporate, gotten a lawyer Holiday Inn still is doing nothing.)

I love you all like crazy for reading my blog, and sharpening me with your feedback. I've received some great emails and texts from you all and it keeps me going.

I celebrated my 32nd birthday without my family, but I felt your lve and prayers. That meant the world.

Also know that I am on one of the most intense spiritual journey of  my life. I am homeless, I did not eat for two days, I have no one to turn to but God, my writing, and social media. I am grateful for all those things. I am better than most. I have an office, an education and an intense drive to get out of this  mess. I will #overcome. 

My goals now are to get to a safe place where my family doesn't know where I live, get my dogs back, get visitation of my sister, travel with my blog, raise money for my marching band, do some press for Good Girl Chronicles, and get that book in the hands of a literary agent. I will sleep under a bridge, I will wake up at 4 a.m. everyday to make those goals happen. That is how driven I am. My hustle is so hard right now. 

Thank you for sharpening me by supporting my blog.

#WomenWhoSlayWednesay; Woman who are light, Women who slay PICS

#WOMENWHOSLAY: Women who are brave, Women who are light, Women Who Slay

You ever meet people who just exude light?I have! There are certain people that just make you feel calm. Lucy Fyfe is one of those people. I met her at a networking mixer and she said, "Lucy Fyfe I'll change your life." They way she said it was so funny and refreshing. I later learned Lucy works for a company called Bioceutica. It is a expansive company that sells custom vitamins, makeup, body shower gels, and lotions. The lists goes on.

THE LUCY FYFE

CHECK THEM OUT AT BIOCEUTICA.COM/LUCYFYFE.

I am not being paid for this review nor am I receiving any free products. Just want to put that out there.

Lucy came to my office in Chesapeake and let me experience Bioceutica skin care, and makeup line Luminous.

I did not try the vitamin line but I am told it's great. From water retention, to energy, to sleep these Bioceutica has something.

Skincare Line: Intuitiv - I tried the B-Hydrated Jade Clay Polish, B-Hydrated Body Lotion, B-Nourished Treatment Oil, B-Protected Day Cream, B-Bright Eye Gel. 

•  I love the feel of all the products. They went on smooth and felt great after. The brochure say the skin care line Intuitiv uses organic, natural, and wild harvest ingredients. Prices range from about 30 bucks per item and up for packages. 

Felt awesome, but my budget is not quite there yet...but for people looking for natural, safe, gentle products I highly recommend. 

Luminous MakeUP by Bioceutica: This brochure says "Bioceutica INGENIOUS Cosmeceutical color is a new generation of "feature enhancing" products formulated to protect and illuminate your natural beauty. Well I just love that. The makeup felt super nice going on. It did not have my shade so I had to blend it with some of my own foundation. I love the eyeshadows. The line does not carry primers for lips or eyes because Bioceutica does not have any preservatives Lucy says. All in all.. it was a great product, but there is not a whole lot that can pull me away from my Mac foundation. I've been using it since my television days. I do suggest giving Bioceutica if you are intensely allergies to a lot of stuff or want to try something new.

THANKS FOR LETTING ME TRY THIS STUFF LUCY #WOMENWHOSLAY

Here's a quick on her amazing woman named Demi Lovato. She is educated, an overcomer of bipolar disorder and so much more.

Good Girl Contributor: Jacquelyn Grace's "Womanhood"

This blog is by our newest contributor Jacquelyn Grace. It's called 'Womanhood' 

It is beautiful and says so much about becoming a woman in our society. Good job doll. 

#teamgoodgirlapproved

Disclaimer: The author was not paid to endorse any particular brands for feminine hygiene products. However, if you would like to film her in a tampon commercial, please reach out to her agent. Thank you.

My first period was anticlimactic. I went to the bathroom on Christmas Eve, looked down, and thought, "This is exactly how the video in P.E. class said it would be."

No big deal.

My mom's first period was something else.

No one told her what it would be like. When she looked down one day and saw all the red, she screamed bloody murder. She thought she was dying.

Her mother and her aunts gathered around her and calmed her down.

Then, they proceeded to steep an array of herbs in water and bathe her gently.

Afterwards, they told her to lie down and rest, and they would not let her lift a finger.

She was treated like a queen for the rest of the day.

Wow.

I'm not sure if other families in the Philippines do this, but when she told me this, I got so jealous.

Why wasn't I bathed with herbs? Why was I unceremoniously given a Kotex pad instead of a day of relaxation?

Once my envy died down, I realized something crucial about our society: how we approach our first period is how we approach womanhood. Although I wish someone warned my mom about her period, I could see that this moment of her life was treated as a celebration of her coming of age.

I'm not saying we need to lather our bodies in herbs or throw a themed party, but we need to discuss this moment in our lives with excitement, not dread.

As my grandma and her sisters tended to my mother, they were silently saying, "Welcome to womanhood. You have your whole life ahead of you. Soon, you will realize how much you're capable of." My mom and the mother figures in her life looked forward to her growing up. It was something positive.

I'm not sure what happened to my mother in the years between her first period and when she had me, but something must have scared her. From the moment I came into the world, I imagine she was not only filled with joy but fear.

Even though my mom made sure I was prepared for this moment, she made sure to treat it with as much nonchalance as possible. Yes, she was trying to make sure I wasn't freaking out, but that also communicated to me her reluctance to see her little girl grow up. My development fed her fears of not being able to protect me from the world.  My inability to at first accept the womanly parts developing before my eyes fed my fears as well. My new hips. My new breasts. Would people look at me differently? Must I now enter that dance between women and men? I did not feel ready for all this adult stuff. The fact that my period started so early at age 11 did not help us cope either.

It's been over a decade since my first period, and eventually we both accepted that I had to one day grow up. Over time, I realized that I was capable of protecting myself, and that being an adult can be as fun, if not more fun, than childhood.

Now I have cousins who look up to me, and one day I might have a daughter. What I want to communicate to them is that they can approach their womanhood with courage and excitement. Being a woman isn't easy, but womanhood is full of so many wonderful things, like having choices and being in charge of myself. I just want young ladies everywhere to realize that yes, the blood ain't pretty, but all that red is a bright, blaring signal that there is so much for them to look forward to.

By: My Grace AKA Jacquelyn Grace

A Good Girl Chronicles Exclusive Contributor

#womenwhoslay

Read her blog : : https://theartinmyself.wordpress.com/

#OVERCOMER: I AM THE WAY AND THE LIGHT! THE REAL ME

Britney Spears said it best in 'Stronger' Today I proclaim I am better than yesterday. My loneliness isn't killing me ANYMORE. And like THE WORD says I am more than a conqueror. No enemy formed against me shall prosper. 

STRONGER- THIS IS ME

'There's nothing you can do or say, baby
I've had enough (LOLO: of your judgement, hurt, manipulation, control, stone throwing."\
You might think that I won't make it on my own
But now I'm ( LOLO:I WILL RISE)

Stronger, than yesterday
Now it's but my way
My loneliness ain't killing me no more
I, I'm stronger

Than I ever though that I could be, baby
I used to go with the flow
Didn't really care 'bout me'
You might think that I can't take it, but you're wrong
Cause now I'm stronger

Here I go, on my own 
I don't need nobody, better off alone
Here I go, on my own now
I don't need nobody, not anybody
Here I go, here I go, here I go

Alright

EVEN THOUGH THE WORLD THROWS STONES AT ME! I AM A CONQUEROR

I AM NOT A SLUT! I AM THE WOMAN AT THE WELL! I AM A STORY-TELLER! I AM A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH GOD! I AM A LOVER BUT DON'T CROSS ME! #WOMANWHOSLAYS

Here I go, here I go
Stronger, than yesterday
It's nothing but my way
My loneliness ain't killing me no more
I'm stronger than yesterday
Now it's nothing but my way
My loneliness ain't killing me no more
Now I'm stronger, than yesterday
Now it's nothing, but my way.

I'M STRONGER

I AM A FIREWORK

I AM MORE THAN A CONQUEROR

I AM THAT I AM 

I AM THE WAY AND THE LIGHT

#STORYTELLER

I AM FREE

I WILL DANCE AGAIN

AND IN TIME GOD WILL BRING ME BEAUTY FOR MY ASHES -ISAISH 61:3

NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER

IT'S YA GIRL LAUREN HOPE AKA LOLO - YOU BETTA ASK ABOUT ME CAUSE GOD HAS MY BACK!

#NOWLETSLAY

#WOMENWHOSLAYWEDNESDAY: "Alasha Bennett" and 'Find the Right Man'

 I had the awesome opportunity to sit down with Alasha Bennett two weeks ago. Many of you know I am a woman of faith and I often speak of the woman at the well. Well meeting Alasha was affirmation that I am the woman at the well. The woman at the well is a woman Jesus met at a well in the Book of John. She and I are a lot alike. Like the woman at the well I have made SOME HUGE mistakes in life, but Jesus loved the woman at the well anyway. So I know in my heart He loves me the same way. That story also taught me that it's critical that we meet other other people at their well. Whatever their circumstance I believe we should try to help. The homeless, the rich, the poor, the downtrodden I think we should all do our part to help one another. That is what I mean when I call myself  "the woman at the well."

Alasha is one of those people who will meet you at your well. She will listen, offer suggestions, laugh, and cry with you. But above all else she will love you right where you are at. How many people can say they did that for someone? Alasha can because she is what you call a relationship expert. She has studied how we relate to one another as men and women. She is the founder of Dating Mechanics. It's all about healthy relationships, good love, and great advice. I'm all about that.

 In the almost three hours we spent together Alasha made me feel whole. She let me know my past dating mistakes were forgiven and I was worthy of love again. Man that chick #slays.

This July she is hosting a free seminar called 'Find the Right Man' IT IS FREE DOLLS. Sorry #finefellas no boys allowed. We all know finding a MAN is the easy part, but the RIGHT man is a different story. I'll be there and Id love to see you there too.


If you can't make it to the actual event July 3rd you can take the classes online at www.dmu.soultions I hope to see you soon, Alasha is amazing and worth the time. Let's sharpen one another ladies. Real ladies promote one another! #womenwhoslaywednesday