Is The Good Girl Dead? Will All My Good Girls Stand-up
The Good Girl Chronicles
The ‘Good
Girl’ is very much dead and we’re still trying to find her murderer. Television
reporters say it was slow death. While it certainly didn’t begin with
celebrities like Britney Spears, we’re definitely a long way from good girl
images from Full House or Laura Winslow from Family Matters. These days our
young girls and daughters follow in the foot steps of semi-adult stars like Miley
Cyrus. A star known for dating a 20 year old, posing partially naked for a
Vogue cover, and calling it apart of
growing up.
The
original good girl is a girl with wholesome values and innocent beauty. A girl
who knows beauty comes from the inside. She’s the girl men settle down with
after playing their way through the dating field. She’s the girl who knows her heart and isn’t
afraid to follow it. But sadly, her image has been slashed several times in
movies and sitcoms as an uptight, inexperienced virgin, who passes judgment on
those who lack her moral fiber. The images of the good girl are fading and are
being replaced with the all elusive, seemingly powerful bad girl.
In our
reality TV, push-the-limits culture, we’ve become too familiar with the bad
girl prototype. The idea of a free, unbridled, no holds barred woman firm in
her sexuality and wild in her pursuit of it. She is a little jaded, bored of
the rigid gender roles society has placed on her. Somehow that image has become
powerful. For instance when Britney
Spears discovered “I’m not yet a girl, Not Yet a Woman”, meant stripped down to
bare nothing and Las Vegas runaway weddings, we all said she was becoming a
woman, evolving…. Her “In The Zone” album was full of sex laced tracks, touch
myself lyrics, and the power and pleasure of a innocent “good girl” turned bad.
As if there
was something tired and faded about being a good girl and being a real woman
meant getting dirty. Is that what being a woman means? Is this what we want our
little girls to aspire to? And somehow we’ve come believe that there is no real
good girl. We’ve learned to expect the “bad girl” transformation. Learning that
sweet-faced Jamie Lynn Spears (sister of Britney Spears, coincidence????) was now pregnant and therefore undeserving of
her highly popular teen show “Zoey 101”, or that fifteen-year old Miley Cyrus
thought posing naked was artistic, was not really that surprising...... We’ve come
to expect these thing.. But these are imperfect examples. Celebrities…. They couldn’t possibly live normal lives if
they wanted. These people make 10
million dollars a movie and have handlers controlling their life… that’s not
real life. But we definitely take a lot of our social norms and roles from the
lives of celebrities. They are often a reflection of our culture. Good girl and
bad.
While I
understand both labels good girl and bad girl are just that labels. I’m ready
for a reemergence of the good girl. I think it’s time when we can appreciate
her again. Bring new life to this slain star. A girl not sexualized before her
time, teaching our young girls how to be ladies. Let’s bring back the girl who
understands that true beauty starts on the inside. It doesn’t mean dieting at
12 to look like their favorites stars. It’s not sexting your boyfriend naked
photos like Vanessa Hugdens. Let’s tell the toymakers we don’t want a “Sexy
Dora”. The makers of Dora plan to repackage our fun loving Spanish speaking
toddler with longer hair, painted nails, and a more slender body. I happen to
love the Dora’s bob and small pop belly, because she’s not teaching my little
girl how to dress or attract a boy she’s teaching language skills.
Let’s get back to building self esteem. No matter what our
favorite teen boppers say about eating burgers and French fries and managing to
keep a size 2 figure, we all know they don’t live under normal circumstances.
So let’s teach our girls about healthy body image and good eating. These little
girls are our future. And while a stylish First Lady is nice, we all know
Michelle Obama is more powerful, because her incredible intellect and passion.
As a former Big Sister mentor I know our little girls are
hungry for role models. And while the Mileys, Vanessas, and Britneys are cool
let’s start personally giving our little girls a wider range of roles to aspire
to. It starts with us; the big sisters, the moms, the godmothers, any woman who
has the ability to influence a little girl.
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